It could be in a bar. It could be at a party. It could be on the bus. It could be in a grocery store.
You see a meltingly hot guy, and you want to cast off all vestiges of modesty and plunge into carnal bliss.
In other words: have a one-night stand.
One-night stands can be great ways to release your inhibitions, live for the moment, and maybe even act out a fantasy or two.
They’re obligation-free, superficial connections that are devoid of romantic expectations.
However, there are guidelines to having a successful one-night stand, so that you can walk away feeling satisfied and uncompromised.
Here are eight suggestions to follow to have the most successful one-night stand possible.
1. Don’t Do Drugs or Drink
Although drugs and alcohol can sometimes enhance certain activities, sex isn’t one of them.
Someone who is drunk or high may turn into someone very different than that shy giggler who you met in line at Starbucks.
This person is a complete stranger, and you really have no idea if they go out of control under the influence.
2. Ask for What You Want
Whether you want to be blindfolded, handcuffed, role-play, or try a new position, ask.
Demand an orgasm, and let him know how to give you one.
Your time together is too brief to go unsatisfied because you were apprehensive about unflinchingly expressing your desires.
3. Stay Safe
Have the encounter on your turf, which is generally safer than going to the home of a guy you barely know.
You can also more fully relax in the familiarity of your own surroundings.
You never know what may be lurking behind your hookup door.
However, if you do decide to go to his place, make sure to text a friend about where you’re going and who you’re going with.
Tell them his name and address (if you know them), and let them know what to do if they haven’t heard from you by a specific time.
4. Use a Condom
In this day and age, it may be a no-brainer to mention this, but common sense can disintegrate in the heat of the moment.
Remember, too, that casual sex can happen in random places — the backseat of a car, a bathroom, or somebody’s lawn — where there’s no handy nightstand to grab a condom.
This is a good reason to have several in your purse or pocket.
Insist that he wear a condom. If he refuses, walk away.
5. Don’t Have Expectations
This isn’t a rom-com, so chances are slim that your one-night stand will blossom into a relationship or lead to marriage.
If you get attached too easily, you should probably avoid one-night stands.
Your heart will be broken, and you won’t be able to let loose and enjoy the present moment because you’re too busy thinking about how this experience could play out long term.
Also, don’t trade contact information or spy on them on social media.
You’ll need to be strong and cut all ties, including emotional ones, associated with your hookup.
6. Never Have One-Night Sex with Someone You Know
Never, ever have sex with a friend, or with one of their friends.
Word of your encounter, possibly filled with intricate details, could circulate.
And with social media, you don’t know where that information will end up.
7. Choose Someone You Click With
Unless you don’t mind lightning-fast “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” sex right after you meet, get to know your potential partner a little bit.
Do you have chemistry? Are they easy to get along with?
Do the two of you have a spirited back-and-forth flirtation going on?
It’s much easier, and more enjoyable, to have sex with someone whose company you enjoy than it is to get down with someone you indiscriminately choose.
8. Don’t Hook up at Closing Time
At closing time, your only potential sex buddies are people who are drunk, desperate, or both.
A hookup at closing time is someone who hasn’t succeeded at picking up anyone throughout the night, and now they’re frantically trying to find someone, anyone, to bed. You don’t want to be a consolation prize.
Also, they’re probably sweaty, smelly, and have bad breath. Not very alluring.
One-night stands should be fun, pleasurable, and fertile ground to explore your fantasies.
There are numerous things you can do to make sure your one-night stand is a success.
Follow the eight tips above and get ready to have the time of your life.
